Monday, December 15, 2008

thin line

When I was younger I never understood why people would say there is a thin line between love & hate. As I got older and more involved with women I grew to understand. I won't say that I agree with it but I definitely understand.

I have female friends from high school days til now that I am very close with and some of the things they tell me guys do makes me realize more and more how much this is true. Guys threaten the woman, " u better not be messing wit no one else" meanwhile they broke up a year ago. I've heard of dudes hitting there ex, the list goes on. Woman do some crazy things too. Stalk a guy, mess wit his car, harass his new girlfriend etc. The question is if this relationship used to be so intimate and loving how did it flip on the complete other side? How can you hate someone so much that you once loved? Have you ever been a victim of that thin line between love and hate? Have you ever been the person that harassed your ex? If you can relate please care 2 share......

4 comments:

JOFre$h said...

waiting to see the responses on this one

Nardeeka said...

HEY I JUST WANT TO START OFF BY SAYING YES I DO AGREE THT THERE IS THIN LINE BTWN LOVE AND HATE BUT IN MY OPINION, MOST OF THE TIME THT HATE STEMS FROM HURT. WHEN A PERSON IS HURT, MALE OR FEMALE, DEPENDING ON HOW STRONG A PERSON IS, THINGS CAN GET LETHAL. LOL. SOME PEOPLE JUST DON'T KNOW HOW TO HANDLE ALL THE EMOTIONS THAT COME WITH BEING HURT ESPECIALLY A MAN BECAUSE AS THEY SAY, THE MALE SPECIES IS NOT EMOTIONAL. I BELIEVE, ON THE CONTRARY, THAT THEY ARE BUT DON'T WANT TO BE CALLED A BITCH AND LIVE UP TO TODAY'S SOCIETY AS TO BE SEEN AS A "MAN" SO IT IS HIDDEN. THEREFORE, THEY GO CRAZY. AS FOR HITTING WOMEN AND ALL THOSE OTHER THNGS THAT WERE STATED, I THINK THAT COMES FROM INSECURITY. ONE WANTS TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSELF SO TO DO THAT THEY NEED TO MAKE ANOTHER FEEL BAD IN TERMS OF HITTING THEM, TALKING BAD THINGS, THREATENING THEM AND SO ON. SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST CRAZY. THIS GOES FOR WOMEN AS WELL BUT HOW I SEE IT IS IF A WOMAN CRIES, ITS NOT THAT BAD AS SEEING A MAN BECAUSE IT IS EXPECTED. IT IS ALSO EASIER FOR WOMEN TO GO AND TALK TO SOMEONE WITHOUT BEING CRITIZIED AND FEEL A SENSE OF RELIEF WHICH WOULD ALLOW THEM TO DO LESS CRAZY THINGS. SOLELY SPEAKING ABOUT FEMALES BECAUSE THAT I AM, I CAN SAY WHEN IT COMES TO WOMEN STALKING, MESSING WITH HIS PROPERTY, HARASSING THE NEW GIRL, I THINK THAT ITS BECAUSE THE GIRL IS NOT COMPLETELY OVER THE MAN. DEEP DOWN INTERNALLY, THE LOVE IS STILL THERE FOR DUDE AND DON'T WANT TO MOVE ON. STALKING, LIKE WANTING TO KNOW WHERE YOU ARE, LOOKING THROUGH HIS THNGS, CAN JUST BE A TRUST FACTOR, MAYBE THE GUY BROKE THAT TRUST OR SHE WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP WHERE TRUST WAS LACKING WHICH ARISES THE STALKER STATUS. TO ANSWER YOUR BLOG IN ITS ENTIRETY, I THINK MOST CRAZY ACTS ARE DONE BECAUSE A PERSON IS HURT. WHAT'S YOUR THOUGHT ON THAT?

Anonymous said...

I agree with the above comment but I feel sometimes in a man's case they do those things for different reasons. Sometimes it is because they were hurt in the past by someone and vowed to do things differently and therefore takes it out on their new significant other. Whereas in other cases, I feel a girl allows a man to treat her badly and if a man sees that a girl doesnt mind then he will continue to do it. This situation is true for both sexes. As for love turning into hate it usually has to do with how the relationship ended. If a girl isnt over a guy, she will stalk him and treat his new girl bad because she doesnt want to see the guy in a relationship with someone else. As for men, when they really care for a girl and the girl breaks their heart, they find ways to treat that girl badly as a way of expressing their emotions.

JOY said...

I love love because it feels good but I hate love because it hurts.That draws the thin line.