2008 in a review

What can I say as 2008 comes to an end. Its is a bitter-sweet feeling. I'm happy to be moving forward into a new year with good health and not losing any love ones, but at the same time sad that its over.

2008 was the best year of my life by far. The 1st four month of the year my gross income was already 60% of the year before :-D. My brother became a father which made me a proud uncle of our beautiful lil girl Lee-Lee. My other brother got married to his long -term girlfriend, (the wedding was popping). I bought my 1st bike (03 GSXR) cant wait til next spring. I made a better reputation for myself in the construction industry wit my co-workers, bosses and others. I found out that I'm gonna be a dad :-D (daddy's lil girl on the way). Waiting for mama Kew 2 drop... Wanted Kaylin to be the 1st baby of the new year. This whole pregnancy experience changed our life and put things in perspective. Grew a stronger bond wit the parents. This is the 1st year in a like 5 years that I haven't lost anyone real close to me. I moved back to the moms crib 2 $tack some bread so I can eventually get my own crib. Barack won the election. I can say I'm leaving 2008 on a all time high.

Entering 09 I'm just gonna take it as another day. I'm not gonna make resolutions and bunch of bullshit to follow for a month til I quit it. If you always think positive you don't need resolutions. Let's see What 09 has in store. If the new year picks up where this one left off then its gonna be a good year.

No more excses

"When there is a will, there is a way." I am a believer of that to a certain extent. When you put your mind to something and focus on reaching a goal even if it takes you longer than anticipated you still will achieve it. This one is a wake up call 2 all my black people, especially young black males. You can not go through life making excuses for why you can't better yourself, life etc.

We don't like to be harassed by cops, stereotyped or treated different than anyone else. With that being said if you don't want to be labeled as a thug how about you try doing something 2 better yourself. Get off the corners, finish skool, get a job. If what I'm saying now is a foreign language than that means you are a big part of the problem. You have to try to make progress before you simply give up. Instead of saying "aint nobody gonna hire my black ass" you should get your black ass up and search until someone does. I went on interviews for 5 months straight and got denied on every shot. All that did was make me go harder, now god willing I will never need another interview in my life. I can also say I surround myself wit people that are doing just as good or betta than me, or at least are working on a future. Shout out 2 the boy J.O Fre$h hopefully the past weekend change your life 4eva.

Open your eyes Obama is the president in another month. If he had that same attitude he would be sitting on the couch wasting oxygen like the rest yall lazy asses. Instead he had a dream and did everything in his power to achieve it. I'm sure at one point he had that same thought in the back of his mind " ain't nobody gonna make my black ass president", but he still followed his dream. What makes him different than me or you. If he can so can I.

I aint preaching, all I'm saying is come january black ppl got no more excuses 2 cry & complain about the "White Man". If you have no ambition you will go nowhere plain and simple.

xmas

Ok so xmas is right around the corner and your boy Webb didn't do any shopping yet..... Not 1 gift bought or even thought of. I won't call myself the Grinch but I'm not really big on xmas. I love it for little children, but its adults that ruin it. Just look at the first official day of xmas shopping 6am a man was killed while at work because these crazy ass people want to catch a sale. Is it that serious that if you don't get your gifts the world is gonna end. All of the crazy shopping and rushing stems from pressure that people put on their family, friends, significant other to get this amazing gift. Me personally I don't do xmas for adults, I get gifts for children, my mom & shorty. Kids love gifts, I gotta get suttin 4 my mom cuz she is a big kid lol, and I always get suttin 4 shorty so I can stay out of the "DOG HOUSE"..... But this year might be the latest start I ever got. Maybe its cuz of the baby shower being the main focus or simply lost track of time. I can say that I can't wait til its all over!!!!! I don't want anything 4 xmas so I'm good ;-)

Women's issues while searching 4 a man

It was requested now here it is. Women's many issues while searching for a man. I guess # 1 on every woman's list would be trust but that's not where it stops. They have guys who treat EVERY girl like a hoe, then they have 2 compete wit the baby moms. The ex-factor, following the playa friend, scared of commitement. Will they switch up? All of this a woman is faced with just to find "Love"

-Trust: trust is not something that is given, it has to be earned. If your man is doing everything possible 2 make you happy you have to have as much trust as possible but not 100%.... 99.9 is good enuff. You can't say he is a playa bcuz his friends are, unless you don't want him to have ne friends. Out of a group of 10 guys at least 5 are playas so give your man the benefit of the doubt until he hangs himself.

-Hoes: some guys treat EVERY girl they meet like a hoe. Most of the time its is obvious from when you 1st meet a dude that he has no respect for females. Being a guy I must say that I'm not disrespectful, but in some cases I don't knock SOME dudes for this attitude. If you don't respect yourself why should I . But dats another story, the point is we have 2 take more time 2 fish out the good from the bad. There are plenty of good women out there who deserve the love and affection they looking for. ( Stop shaking your head yes women lol, cuz some want a trophy man and they sure aint a trophy wife.)

Baby Moms- when you take on a new guy that has a kid you MUST know 90% of the time the baby moms is crazy. Lol. Even if she isn't the biggest psycho out there she is more than likely not gonna be happy about him moving on because he was "HERS". Either she gonna still want him or just simply want him to be unhappy so will do anything to fuck up his future relationships.

The ex-factor plays a big part in the man moving on. If the man got his feelings hurt in his break up it definitely WILL show up in the next relationship. Men don't do 2 well wit getting there feelings hurt. Also if his ex isn't over him, you will know because she won't show any respect for the new relationship he is involved in. That might sound bad ladies but in a weird way that's good if she pisses him off. Once she does he will start to push her away even more, even on a friend level.... Have some patience. The only thing I can say about the ex is let the man handle his past just as he should let u handle yours. ( That was a waste of very useful information because every girl feels like they MUST say suttin to "that B*TCH") LOL women are so crazy

Friends- some dudes feel like they must impress there friends. They as far are cheating to show they still got it. Or the worst thing I ever saw is a case where a guy was like "dats not my girl just some chick I F wit". This dude wifed the girl and still couldn't just tell his mans she was even his shorty. He was more worried about looking like a pimp.I just feel dudes should keep it real if you in love nigga so what, u worried bout wat ur boys gonna say. Smh. Are u gay?

The last problem that women are faced wit is the guy that is scared of commitment. This is the dude that will say I wanna be with you, I love you etc. But when he feels u are getting too attached he pulls away from the relationship. He starts off looking like a hero then after time passes goes right back to being a zero.

So there u have it ladies I got the guys back too. But you still have to meet every man and judge then as a individual instead of lableling them as a "MAN". Or saying "all men are dogs and blah blah". If that's how you truly feel then cross the street you won't be the 1st and definitely won't be the last.

Unborn Child

Over the past 4 years I must have been to damn near 40 baby showers but this past saturday was my time. Its a totally different feeling now that the shower is over. All through the pregnancy it seemed like the due date was so far away. Now when I walk I'm my house all I see is baby this and baby that, it is a wake up call that Kaylin is almost here. There is only a month left b4 she is expected 2 arrive. Me being a young man who is gonna be experiencing fatherhood for the 1st time everyones question to me is are you ready. I answer honestly NO. I know that there are plenty of things I don't know and are not ready for but I guess it will come with time. Only thing I can guarantee is that imma grind harder and definitely not turn my back on my child like so many lame ass guys do. All my homies that got kids try 2 explain all that comes along wit being a dad (especially wit a lil girl) but I guess that'something we all gotta experience when the time comes.... Once again b4 I forget I like 2 thank everyone that came out 2 support me & Kew wit our new edition 2 the world....... What will I do in a few weeks when my lil angel is here? Pray 4 me lol........

Has Fashion Gone 2 Far!!!!!!!

Correct me if I'm wrong but isn't skinny jeans supposed to be for women? I mean I know the baggy stage is over that went out wit the new millennium. You can't even walk in the club wit the MC Hammer pants, timbs and XXXL tees or jersey. Now that we got that out of the way close fitted dressing for dudes is the grown & sexy look. The question is why do people confuse skin tight for close fitted.

Everyone is giving Jim Jones credit for the close fitted look but its been around b4 he started testing it out. I will say that he added the hood swag to it, which open the eyes of many of the dudes wearing jeans 4 sizes too big. I remember my H.S days when I had the big jeans and jersey, I thought I would never switch over to close fitted clothes. It wasn't until I started clubbing and mixing wit different crowds that I realized that fitted clothing is popping. Ne way I see a lot of people embracing the look and it definitely is a good look, after u reach a certain age the kid look should be ot the door.
Now as for all these other dudes that I have 2 smfh at I don't know who gives them the ok. Where are u going with SKINNY JEANS. These skin tight jeans u can't even walk in, then try to sag em and have on some big ass sneakers. That shit looks like a clown outfit tight pants and big shoes. I personally feel like that is mad gay. Sometimes when I'm on the train coming home with these highschool kids when I look around the boys pants are tighter then the girls. Like wtf where did we go wrong where are the fashion police. How do these dudes still have a valid hood pass if the walking around looking like girls. Whats next lower back tattoos.
I'm a big fan of fashion and new trends. I don't follow all of the trends that come out because I try to keep my own style, but I still embrace most of the new shit that's out. I feel like it can be 10 years from now and I will never accept what we got going on here wit the dudes shopping in the woman section. What's next a silk blouse to match? My question to you is when does fashion go too far? When are we supposed to draw the line?

thin line

When I was younger I never understood why people would say there is a thin line between love & hate. As I got older and more involved with women I grew to understand. I won't say that I agree with it but I definitely understand.

I have female friends from high school days til now that I am very close with and some of the things they tell me guys do makes me realize more and more how much this is true. Guys threaten the woman, " u better not be messing wit no one else" meanwhile they broke up a year ago. I've heard of dudes hitting there ex, the list goes on. Woman do some crazy things too. Stalk a guy, mess wit his car, harass his new girlfriend etc. The question is if this relationship used to be so intimate and loving how did it flip on the complete other side? How can you hate someone so much that you once loved? Have you ever been a victim of that thin line between love and hate? Have you ever been the person that harassed your ex? If you can relate please care 2 share......

Fall back dude!!!!!! who are you?

The funniest thing happened to me 2day that I'm sure happened to every1 at some point in time. I'm getting of the train after work & homie walks over to me "like you Webb what's good." So me being the nice guy I am 0:-) instead of embarrassing him and saying sorry who the F are you, I respond "whats good my dude I haven't seen you in a minute how you. " I try to keep on walking in stride and say stay up and go on but my merry lil way. For some reason dude walks the same way I got to walk and carries on a conversation with me like we were best homies, the sad thing is I don't know this dudes face from anywhere. Should I have hit him with the awkward words like excuse me who are you or did I do the right thing lol? I know I'm not the only person that this has happened to. What do you do when someone is excited to see you and u can't even remember them?

Finally im done!!!!!!

I'm finally done wit all the stress of planning a baby shower. I put in mad hours @ work 2 get some extra money of the side 2 make sure everything came out as planned. Many of arguments between me and shorty. Driving from store 2 store. On the phone with multiple halls, stores etc. But after all that I can say its all came 2gether and shorty is excited so my job is done. I got help from a bunch of ppl 2 make some food :-) I can't wait. My boy Icey gonna hold me down as always and come play the tunes all night. So only a few days b4 the shower goes down and I will really look in the mirror and realize imma be responsible 4 the lil monster I made. I invited as many ppl as possible I know there are some I left out that are gonna give me the blues but hey if you had all the things on your mind that I do, a lot would skip your mind. Besides this new generation comes 2 baby showers without invitation..

Controlling your life!!!! What would you change?

Life is not a straight line, it has its ups and downs. On the bumpy road called life there are many things that we wish we could prevent, changed, alter etc. I know when some1 dies every wishes they could rewind time and make it all better. Some ppl wanna rewind 2 fix relationships. How bout those who wanna fast forward there life. I'm sure pregnant women would love 2 fast forward there pregnancy. I have a few things in my past I wish I could change but I respect life enough 2 know that not everything goes as planned. The strongest people are not those who got the easy route 2 success, it is those who can overcome bad decisions, tragedies or whatever comes there way. How many things in your past do you wish you could change? Do you have regrets? Or are you satisfied with all the decisions you made in your past?

Life comes at us so fast

After you graduate H.S. life finally starts. No1 is gonna baby you anymore. You gotta pick your path in life right away or your already falling being in the rat race. The choices you are forced 2 face is school/ trade or work, stay home or move out, follow your friends or be an individual, it all comes at you so fast.

Let's start with the fairy tale that the school system forces into your mind from pre-k all the way through 12th grade. They tell you if you do good in school and go on to college, get your degree then you will be set right. They say u will be guaranteed a good paying job and live a good life. Well they don't tell you that's only if your in the medical, law or teaching fields, because the rest of those degrees don't promise you anything. All those other degrees don't promise anything but the pride 2 say you got one.

Trade schools/ city jobs are the best thing you can get yourself into if your built for it. No1 tells that lil boy in elementary school that the garbage man makes over a 100k a year. With that being said why do people look down on blue collar jobs if they are higher paying and more technical that majority of other jobs out there. I work with some people who have vacation homes, boats, multiple car collection..... I never heard my teachers speak of nuttin that nice. Use your own mind figure out the best path for you not what everyone else thinks is best for you.

Staying home would have 2 be the best thing for as long as your allowed to. But u might be forced to move sort of like myself. I came to a point in my life where me and my father could no longer live 2gether. Do I regret moving out? NO, but at the same time every time I pay rent I just smh and realize that my life could have been so much easier if my household was different. I can say moving out was a real wake up call. Simple things like waking up on my own, keeping groceries, paying bills on time all becomes a new routine. I am grateful that I am close enough to my mom where if I really need someone to talk to or a helping hand I know she is right there. The older you get the more you understand life and what really matters. I don't think I would trade my life for the world, only thing I could use 2 better my life now is a lil extra ca$h.

Stalkers :-(

When does attraction go 2 far. When does like turn into love? Love turn into obsession? and Obsession turn into scary or stalking? Over the years I have heard of many cases of stalking male and female. I am also a victim of stalking not a good feeling. It can be very annoying & frustrating, nothing good can come out of this.

There are many different signs of a potential stalker. You can tell if some1 is a stalker even b4 you get 2 the point of breaking it off wit them. If your partner, sex-buddy, or wateva pops up on you they might be a potential stalker. Calls 20x a day might be a potential stalker. Every convo starts with where you @ might be a potential stalker. Do u get where I'm going? Even dat type of stalker is not the worst case.

The new age stalker is wat I call Class-A stalker. This is the type of person who does nething to find out a piece of information about you. They check the infamous myspace and facebook daily. Going thru messages, photo albums, comments, friends list etc. (This is why I personally don't use these websites much and are 2 soon be deleted, but dats a whole other blog in the future). Class-A stalkers become friends with your close friends just to find out information, check your away messages, do research on your current relationship. We could go on with the list of things they do 2 pry into your life, but I'm sure there are many things they do that I could never think of because I don't have the mind of a psycho.

My question is this: Wat do you get out of stalking someone? Why follow a person's every move when they don't pay you any mind? Does stalking bring you pleasure or just cause you more pain knowing that your on the outside looking in? And the most important question is "Where is your pride?" Let me get some feedback. Stalkers feel free 2 respond 2....

Young lives lost

A random convo with my mom.

After the tragic death of my homie Kenny, knowing I just went thru the most tough time of my life a few months back losing my best friend Kim, she says " I don't kno how yall kids do it"

Me: "do what"
Mom: " go on with yall life after losing so many friends at such a yound age, I am almost 60 and you lost more friends already than I did"
Me: " I don't kno how either, but its something we just do cuz we have 2"
Mom: " I thought u would never bounce back after losing your best friend Kim"
Me " I don't think I did and may never bounce back, I still get sad like its brand new news 2 me, but I just found a way 2 hide the pain"


By the age of 22 I have lost 3 real close friends under the age of 25. What direction is the world going if everyday you read the paper another young black male is lost. Life is crazy here 2day gone 2moro, cherish it while you can.

The struggles men take on with a new relationship

Sometimes I listen 2 women and I wonder if they understand themselves. Its like you treat them bad they hate you.... Its like its a lose lose situation. Its obvious y they dog they bad guy, but why does the good guy get treated the same if not worst in some cases. I thinks its a few key points, insecurity, past relationships which I personally call the Ex- factor, the guys homies he hangs out wit and all boyfriend's worst enemy that hater ass girlfriend.

-Insecurity: its like woman know exactly what kinda guy they want and what it takes 2 get him. With that being said why is that when you find Mr. Right instead of letting him show you the good guy he is, you rather hold back your feelings 2 see if he will turn into Mr. Wrong. Accusing him of cheating, lying and so forth just because he seems so right that something has 2 be wrong. With that chain of thought in the long run the only thing that's wrong is you. Your wrong for not giving yourself the opportunity 2 fall for the person who is trying his best 2 make you happy. If the insecurity doesn't break down, either the man will get tired of proving himself, or you will be tired of feeling unsure.

- Ex- Factor: this issue is very serious the 1st question is are you over your ex. If not then you should even go back or take some more alone time before you hurt the next. If you are over the ex then don't treat the current partner as if he is your ex. Don't think he is a cheater because yoyour ex was or that he gonna do some of the same things. Once u start comparing him 2 your ex, saying things like " my ex used 2 do this, or that" the perfect response is I'm not your ex. You have 2 give the current man a chance 2 prove himself, if he is worth yoyour time or not while show in due time due 2 his actions.

The homies- when you hang out with a few bad apples your shorty will say your just like them. Now how bout when u hang out with a group of positive dudes that are respectful and do the right thing, will you be rewarded.... I highly doubt it. I rest my case!!!!!!!!

Hating girlfriends- this is the worst enemy for any male. He not only has 2 fight with his girl now he has 2 fight off a flock of angry women. Its the girlfriend who mad cuz she not cute and no1 holla @ her. Then you got the girl who can't get a man. Or the girl who just lost her man. All of them aint gonna be happy til there girl is unhappy just like them.........

The moral of the story is if you love your man and you want it 2 work the only thing you need 2 focus on is him and the effort he puts into what you are tying 2 build 2gether.

my 1st blog

This is my 1st blog............. I got a lot of thoughts 2 post on some pure random days/ nights. Shout out to the boy J.O Fresh for putting me on to the blog. I am definitely tired of myspace and facebook, that shit is over rated. Not enough freedom to express yourself. So now that im in the blog world I hope as time goes by you will get a chance 2 read and enjoy my thoughts..... on that note im signing off til next time...... I'll HOLLA